You know what you should do. The hard part is doing it, again and again.
Spot the ADHD trap. Get out faster.
Short, practical guides to stop losing days to the same patterns, and to help the people who love you support you without taking over.
I have ADHD
The ADHD Trap Map. Stop losing days to the same 26 patterns, and get moving again
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I love someone with ADHD
What to do if your beloved has ADHD. Respond instead of react, and support them without losing yourself
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“you just said my whole life in words”
Who it's for
You want to help, without taking over and without losing yourself.
The guides are for learning and reflection. They don't diagnose or treat ADHD.
The guides
Short pages, big type, one idea at a time. Read the part you need.
The ADHD Trap Map
See exactly where you get stuck, and how to get moving again.
- Name the trap you're in, instead of blaming yourself
- Catch the warning signs before the whole day slips away
- Get out faster, with a way out of each of the 26 traps
- Read just one page when your focus is low
- Write your own top-3 trap plan in the worksheets
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What to do if your beloved has ADHD
Understand what's going on, and support them without losing yourself.
- Understand what's ADHD and what isn't, in plain words
- Respond to the situation, not the person, in 12 everyday moments
- Support them without taking over or burning out
- Get honest answers to the 10 questions partners and family ask
- Know what ADHD care looks like, so you can back them up
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How to use the Trap Map
Don't try to change everything at once.
Read one trap at a time
Start anywhere. Highlight the ones that feel familiar.
Start with three questions
What is the trap? How do I recognise it? What can I do about it?
Pick your top 3
Write your own examples, warning signs and rules in My Personal Trap Guide.
Recover faster
You'll still fall in. The goal is to spot it sooner and get out faster.
You can understand without excusing. You can support without taking over.
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- Spot your traps sooner
- A way out of each of the 26
- Your own top-3 trap plan
- 69-page PDF, instant download
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What to do if your beloved has ADHD
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- Understand without excusing
- Respond instead of react
- Support without losing yourself
- 33-page PDF, instant download
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Questions
What format are the guides?
PDF, with an instant download after you buy. They work on a phone, tablet or computer.
Can I fill in the worksheets?
Yes. The Trap Map worksheets can be typed into on screen, or printed.
Is this medical advice?
No. The guides are for learning and reflection. They don't diagnose ADHD and don't replace a doctor or therapist. The full disclaimer is on the Disclaimer page.
Who are the guides for?
Adults. Readers under 18 should use them together with a parent, carer or professional.
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